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  • admin 12:56 on 15/06/2019  

    The Search for MH370
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    Saturday, March 8

    3.41am (Australian time): Malaysia Airlines flight MH370 takes off from Kuala Lumpur with 239 people, including 12 crew, scheduled to arrive in Beijing just under six hours later.

    5.40am: The plane disappears from Malaysian radar.

    March 9

    3pm: Vietnam confirms the plane went missing in its airspace.

    5.30pm: Vietnamese media claim that a navy official said the plane had crashed into the sea between Vietnam and Malaysia is later denied.

    9pm: Six Australian passengers confirmed to be on flight,  plus a Perth-based New Zealander.

    Italian Luigi Maraldi and Austrian Christian Kozel, believed to be on the plane, contact authorities to say their passports had been stolen.

    A report emerges that a pilot who made contact with missing plane received no distress call.

    Investigators check CCTV footage of two passengers using stolen passports.

    Search area widened after reports the plane might have tried to turn back.

    Two oil slicks spotted by Vietnam air force planes in South China Sea.

    March 10

    FBI called in to investigate possible terrorism link.

    Malaysia dismisses the objects in South China Sea as not from the plane and intensifies its search efforts.

    Senior Malaysian investigator says it is likely the plane ‘‘disintegrated at around 35,000 feet’’.

    March 11

    Malaysian authorities say the most likely cause is a catastrophic mid-air explosion caused either by a bomb or a highly unusual technical fault brought about by sabotage, hijack or ‘‘mental or personality problems’’.

    Stolen passport holders identified as Iranians.

    Co-pilot Fariq Abdul Hamid revealed to have once invited young women into the cockpit.

    March 12

    Malaysian authorities admit they are unsure which direction the plane was flying when it disappeared, saying it might have turned back two hours into the flight.

    Pilot’s final words released: ‘‘All right. Good night.’’

    March 13

    Chinese government releases satellite images of ‘‘floating objects’’ in the ‘‘suspected crash area’’ in the Gulf of Thailand.

    Revealed that communications signals continued for four hours after the plane disappeared.

    March 15

    Satellite data shows the plane flew for seven hours after communications equipment was turned off, possibly towards Iran or south-west to the Indian Ocean.

    Police raid homes of pilots  Zaharie Ahmad Shah and Fariq Abdul Hamid.

    March 16

    Media reports a British-born al-Qaeda supergrass claims a handful of Malaysian men were planning a shoe bombing on the MH370.

    Malaysia Airlines reveals plane’s communications were deliberately turned off.

    March 17

    New Straits Times reports the plane may have flown at low altitude to avoid radars.

    March 18

    Revealed that someone altered the flight path by typing a code into a flight management system.

    Australian-led search of the Indian Ocean begins.

    March 19

    Malaysian defence minister asks US to share data from Pine Gap bases in Australia.

    March 20 

    Images released of potential wreckage 2300 kilometres south-west of Perth.

    Australia dispatches four Orion P3 maritime surveillance planes and RAAF C-130 Hercules aircraft, New Zealand sends another and the US sends a Poseidon submarine-hunting plane.

    March 21

    Revealed that US satellite supplied the images of the floating debris.

    March 22

    University of Western Australia oceanographer says the debris may have originated 500 kilometres away.

    March 23

    Chinese satellite identifies another large object in the Indian Ocean.

    March 24

    Australian Prime Minister Tony Abbott tells Parliament more possible wreckage been spotted. March 25

    Malaysian Prime Minister Najib Razak announces MH370 crashed into the southern Indian Ocean killing all on board.

    Australia’s HMAS Success only ship in the southern search area. Ten Chinese ships and six Malaysian vessels, with three ship-borne helicopters, expected on Tuesday.

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  • admin 12:56 on 15/06/2019  

    Kieran Loveridge is escorted from the NSW Supreme Court after being sentenced for the manslaughter of Thomas Kelly. Photo: Kate GeraghtyTelevision cameras will be allowed into the NSW Supreme Court for verdicts and sentences in criminal trials, the Attorney-General, Greg Smith says.
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    The proposal, which will go before Parliament later this year, will help “demystify the court process” and “increase the transparency of the decision-making” of judges, Mr Smith said.

    Cameras have already been allowed in court for a few high-profile cases, including the Court of Criminal Appeal’s verdict in Gordon Wood’s successful appeal against his conviction for the murder of Caroline Byrne, and the sentencing of Keli Lane for the murder of her baby, Tegan.

    The new regime would create a presumption in favour of allowing filming and broadcasting of verdicts in judge-alone trials and sentences, rather than media organisations having to apply and receive permission on a case-by-case basis.

    “Broadcasting would be the norm, rather than the exception,” he said.

    But filming of jurors, protected witnesses or victims would be prohibited, ad there would be no cameras allowed in any cases where non-publication or suppression orders are in place.

    Material that could prejudice other trials or investigations or reveal police methodology would also be excluded.

    “It may open up into streaming, even of evidence, but at this stage we are limiting it to the remarks on sentence and verdicts,” Mr Smith said.

    The move is likely a response to the widespread outrage following perceived lenient sentences given to some offenders in the past 12 months, such as Kieran Loveridge, who received a minimum four years’ jail for the manslaughter of Thomas Kelly.

    The Chief Justice, Tom Bathurst is holding three symposiums – one for MPs, one for members of the media and one for the general public – “in an endeavour to explain and clarify the principles which courts are required to adopt in sentencing offenders”.

    Mr Smith said the judiciary were supportive of increasing the presence of cameras in their courtrooms.

    “The public don’t fully understand the difficulties of sentencing and the intricacies of it. I think this will give them more chance of understanding when the judge sets out the background, then gives reasons for why, ultimately, he or she decides to give a particular sentence.”

    NSW will be the first state in Australia to introduce this type of legislation.

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  • admin 12:56 on 15/06/2019  

    Finance Minister Senator Mathias Cormann announced the government is delaying implementing the proposed FoFA changes. Photo: Alex EllinghausenYesterday was a good day for investors. Finance Minister, Senator Mathias Cormann, yesterday announced that the government’s planned roll-back of the ‘Future of Financial Advice’ reforms would be put on ice while it considers feedback from stakeholders.
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    We can only hope Senator Cormann’s common sense decision will result in the government permanently shelving the changes.

    Of course, politicians of both stripes are lining up to spin the decision, but this isn’t – or shouldn’t be – a political issue.

    Furious agreement… don’t change FoFA

    There has been a chorus of common sense commentary from right across the financial world. The likes of Ross Gittins, Michael Pascoe and Christopher Joye have all lined up against the flawed FoFA changes. Financial commentator and news presenter Ross Greenwood is another who has been vocal on the topic. On this very page as far back as October last year, we argued for the watering down of investor protections to be abandoned.

    There is – or should be – a very simple approach to providing financial advice. Everything done by a financial adviser should be focussed solely on the clients’ best interest, without the opportunity for that adviser to be corrupted by the offer of commissions from product providers. And to paraphrase the old saw, financial advice not only needs to be independent, but needs to be seen to be independent.

    If my doctor received a kickback from prescribing certain drugs, would I be certain I was getting the best possible healthcare? And wouldn’t there be a small minority who found it nigh impossible to ignore the money and have their judgement compromised by same? If my lawyer was being paid by someone else to provide legal representation, wouldn’t I worry about their commitment to my cause?

    Trust is paramount

    So if my financial adviser is receiving commissions of up to 10% to recommend a certain product, or 2% to recommend a different product, can they really resist the lure of the extra money? And even if they are completely convinced that the 10% commission product was the best one, can I be sure of their motivations?

    Aren’t I entitled to have my adviser acting in my best interests? Aren’t I entitled to receive honest and impartial advice? Shouldn’t anyone trying to sell me a financial product have to be called a ‘salesperson’ rather than the independent-sounding ‘adviser’ or ‘planner’? And shouldn’t such a person need to be qualified? Aren’t I entitled to have my adviser receiving money only from clients, and not from vested interests?

    Put another way, why would product promoters pay commissions to financial advisers, if not to gain favour? These promoters aren’t stupid. They wouldn’t be paying money if it wasn’t achieving their desired aims. If the product was good enough, and advisers weren’t being paid commissions, they’d get the business anyway.

    Australian investors deserve better

    The financial services industry is littered with the wreckage of bad products and terrible advice.

    I made this plea to Prime Minister Tony Abbott (back in October):

    “Mr Abbott, you took a commendable step in deciding that it was inappropriate for lobbyists to hold executive positions in the Liberal Party. Conflicts – and even the appearance or possibility of same – must be avoided.

    “The individual investors of Australia deserve no less than transparent, conflict-free (including any appearance of and potential for same) financial advice. Please resist the temptation – and intense lobbying – of those who seek to protect themselves at the expense of their clients.

    Foolish takeaway

    I previously met with Senator Sinodinos, who had responsibility for the roll-backs and put these same concerns to him.

    I am now calling on Senator Cormann to follow the imminently sensible decision to halt these changes with another sensible decision – to act in the best interests of individual investors and leave the FoFA changes in place. Australian investors deserve no less.

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    Scott Phillips is a Motley Foolinvestment advisor. You can follow Scott on Twitter @TMFGilla. The Motley Fool’s purpose is to educate, amuse and enrich investors. This article contains general investment advice only (under AFSL 400691).

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  • admin 12:56 on 15/06/2019  

    Questions on whether Perth can cope with the potential influx of families of the Malaysia Airlines tragedy. Photo: Louie Douvis Questions on whether Perth can cope with the potential influx of families of the Malaysia Airlines tragedy. Photo: Louie Douvis
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    Questions on whether Perth can cope with the potential influx of families of the Malaysia Airlines tragedy. Photo: Louie Douvis

    Questions on whether Perth can cope with the potential influx of families of the Malaysia Airlines tragedy. Photo: Louie Douvis

    As it happened – confirmation of crashRelatives told by text messageOfficial statement

    Hotels in Perth will do all they can to accommodate the family members of the passengers on the stricken Malaysia Airlines flight MH370 if they head to Perth, Tourism Council Western Australia chief executive Evan Hall said.

    It has been reported that the families of those on board Malaysia Airlines flight MH370 could be flown to Perth to be closer to the base of the search for the plane’s wreckage following the Malaysian Prime Minister’s confirmation that the plane “ended its flight in the southern Indian Ocean”.

    There were 239 people aboard the plane, meaning there could potentially be hundreds of family members arriving in the coming days, Perth being the closest point to where the plane is believed to have plunged into the ocean, more than 2000 kilometres out to sea.

    Mr Hall told Fairfax Media “in a situation like this the industry would find a way to accommodate people.”

    He said while some hotels in Perth could hold up to about 400 guests, the occupancy rate had been up near 90 per cent, so families may have to be put up in different hotels.

    Mr Hall said he was not aware of any specific plans to accommodate passenger’s family members in Perth.

    A statement from Malaysia Airlines released on Tuesday morning said “when Malaysia Airlines receives approval from the investigating authorities, arrangements will be made to bring the families to the recovery area”.

    Lord Mayor Lisa Scaffidi expressed her sadness over the confirmation of the news that flight MH370 went down in waters south-west of Perth on Twitter.

    “I feel so sad our City is now the closest to where plane is,” she tweeted.— Lisa Scaffidi (@LisaScafPerthLM) March 24, 2014

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  • admin 12:56 on 15/06/2019  

    Essendon coach Mark Thompson. Photo: Pat Scala Essendon coach Mark Thompson. Photo: Pat Scala
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    Essendon coach Mark Thompson. Photo: Pat Scala

    Essendon coach Mark Thompson. Photo: Pat Scala

    Mark Thompson will not be drawn on whether James Hird’s planned return to resume duties as senior coach after this season is the best outcome for Essendon, as the club desperately tries to put the supplements scandal behind it.

    With the Bombers’ board set to meet on Wednesday to discuss Hird’s future in the wake of a 7.30 interview with his wife Tania, the club confirmed on Tuesday that Tania had been invited to attend, although it’s believed she will now decline the offer.

    The board wanted to give Tania Hird the chance to tell her side of the story, along with her husband James who the club has confirmed will be part of the meeting via a video link-up from overseas.

    The club says it wants to be as transparent as possible with both James and Tania as to their position, however it’s understood Tania took offence to her invitation being presented in the media as a club order for her to front the meeting.

    Thompson, meanwhile, remained adamant on Tuesday that he will not be the senior coach next year, telling the media he did not expect to be asked to continue in the job beyond 2014, and would not do so even if he was approached.

    Thompson is convinced Hird will return take over the team, even if the club’s board is yet to reach that position.

    Chairman Paul Little is still refusing to guarantee the Bombers legend will be given the next two seasons post 2014 as promised to him after his 12-month suspension for involvement in the supplements saga was agreed.

    The media frenzy created by public comments by Tania Hird, and fuelled further by Little’s response, sparked speculation last week that the Bombers might seek a fresh start by cutting ties with one of the club’s most famous figures.

    Thompson was asked directly on Tuesday if he thought Hird’s return was best for the club. After a pause, he replied: “He’s coming back. That was the plan. Until it changes, we can’t do anything else”.

    The uncertainty around Hird will continue to linger until more information is presented after Wednesday’s crucial board meeting, however it took only a round one win against North Melbourne for the first group of Essendon supporters, and other commentators, to suggest the club might be better off sacking Hird and sticking with former Geelong premiership coach Thompson long term.

    Thompson, speaking at training on Tuesday, said he had not been approached by the Bombers to coach beyond his one-year agreement.

    “I wouldn’t expect the club to ask, and I wouldn’t change my answer,” he said.

    Essendon legend Tim Watson, father of captain Jobe Watson, said on Monday night he still had some doubt as to whether Hird would coach the club again, although he thinks he will – provided he and the “Hird camp” give assurances that they will not spark further distractions for the club by speaking out publicly about the drugs drama.

    Another Bombers champion in the media, Matthew Lloyd, said he had strong information that Hird would be the coach post 2014, and that the board meeting was more to work out a strategy of how that could happen without causing more interruptions to this season.

    Pleased but not surprised by how his players were able to block out the constant speculation about the furture of their coach, Thompson said he did not expect the Hird issue to disrupt preparations for Friday night’s blockbuster against arch rival Hawthorn at Etihad Stadium.

    “I don’t think it will have any impact at all,” he said.

    “We won’t talk about it, we won’t use it. The best way to play good footy is to concentrate on good footy.

    “It’s not my issue. It’s the club’s issue.

    “They’ve got to work it all out and I’m happy for that, and the players are happy, because we can get to do what we do – and that’s concentrate on footy.”

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  • admin 12:48 on 15/06/2019  

    Hey Dad! star Robert Hughes. Photo: Janie BarrettThe de facto partner of Hey Dad! star Robert Hughes has corroborated his claim that he never paraded naked around the pool at neighbourhood barbecues or wore a sarong “like a miniskirt”, as a number of his victims have asserted.
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    The evidence came from Robyn Gardiner, a theatrical agent who met Mr Hughes in 1975, and is now a witness in his ongoing trial on 11 child sex charges.

    Among the allegations against Mr Hughes is that he deliberately exposed himself to young girls by wearing a sarong folded up above his knees without underwear.

    On Tuesday, Ms Gardiner defended her de facto partner against the claims, confirming that she had bought herself and her husband sarongs, but that Mr Hughes only wore his while gardening.

    “Did you ever see him wear it as some sort of miniskirt?” Mr Hughes’ lawyer Greg Walsh asked.

    “Certainly not,” Ms Gardiner responded.

    “Do you have any memory of him wearing a sarong and exposing his genitals?” Mr Walsh continued.

    “Absolutely not,” she replied.

    The theatrical agent also told the Downing Centre District Court she had never seen him walking around and swimming naked at the home of one of their neighbours.

    “Did you ever see Robert at a barbecue walking around the proximity of the pool naked?” Mr Walsh asked.

    “Absolutely not,” Ms Gardiner replied.

    “Did he swim naked in the pool?” he continued.

    “No,” she replied.

    Ms Gardiner also backed up the actor’s claim that he ceased contact with the mother of one of his alleged victims, not because he had behaved inappropriately as the mother claimed, but because the woman had attempted to get involved with her romantically during a houseboat holiday.

    “I really don’t feel comfortable talking about this but I guess I have to,” Ms Gardiner said.

    “[The mother of the alleged victim] had confided in me some months before the trip that there were certain tensions in the relationship [with her husband] and they were looking outside their relationship,” she said.

    “She told me that she wanted to bring other people into their relationship. It was told to me in confidence and I didn’t make anything of it then but I wasn’t interested [in being part of it].

    “The first couple of days [on the houseboat trip] were fine but during the last couple of days it became clear that she wanted to experience that with me. I wasn’t comfortable and I decided it was best if we didn’t continue the friendship the way it had been.”

    The trial continues.

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  • admin 12:48 on 15/06/2019  

    Out with the old: Windows XP is a 13-year-old operating system way past its use-by date. Microsoft chairman and then chief software architect Bill Gates next to a computer with Windows XP (previously code-named “Whistler”) at the time of launch in 2001. Photo: Jeff Christensen
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    Are you recommending Windows 7 or 8 when friends abandon XP?Microsoft is finally ending extended support for Windows XP on April 8. This means you’ll no longer get patches for Windows security vulnerabilities, although Microsoft Security Essentials anti-malware support has been extended until July 2015. I don’t think XP users can argue that they’ve been hard done by, Microsoft has extended several support deadlines but Windows XP is more than a decade old and the time has come to move on.If you’re keen on tech then you surely abandoned Windows XP a long time ago, but you probably find yourself acting as tech advisor to friends and relatives who are slower to upgrade. I’ve helped a few friends in their sixties upgrade from XP machines in the last few months. They were overdue for a hardware refresh anyway. I reckon it’s far less painful for your average person to wait until they buy a new computer before moving to a new version Windows, rather than upgrading an existing PC.Truth be told I haven’t recommended Windows 8 to any of these friends, not even after the Windows 8.1 update. If you’re dealing with a non-tech savvy person who isn’t looking to embrace change then I don’t think you’re doing them any favours by inflicting Windows 8 on them. It’s a much smoother transition from Windows XP to Windows 7, which will still meet all their needs.It’s not that I think my friends are stupid. I’m sure they could eventually find their way around Windows 8, but they’ve got better things to do with their time than re-learn Windows just because Microsoft felt like changing everything. They’re not the kind of people who tinker with computers for fun, just like I’m not the kind of person who tinkers with cars for fun. When I buy a new car I want something that just works, a simple tool for getting from A to B. That’s how most people view computers. They don’t want me to shove Windows 8 in their face and tell them “it’s the way of the future”.You might struggle to find Windows 7 computers on the shelves, but if you buy a machine with Windows 8 Pro you have the right to downgrade to Windows 7 Pro. Some vendors and computer stores will even pre-install Windows 7 for you, which means you don’t need to mess around looking for drivers and dealing with other compatibility issues. If a systems builder or computer shop is building a computer for you then you’re entitled to buy an OEM version of Windows 7. Extended support for Windows 7 runs until 2020, so you’re covered for a while yet.If you’re keen on tech then you might be very happy with Windows 8.1, but when you’re helping less tech-savvy friends upgrade you need to think about what’s right for them, not what’s right for you. What are you recommending for your friends as they finally part ways with Windows XP?

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  • admin 12:48 on 15/06/2019  

    sisterWhen it comes to age gaps between children, everyone has an opinion on what the best period in between kids might be. And while the common trend is around a two-year space between offspring, what isn’t so often lauded is the large age gap. 
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    We opted for a four-and-a-half-year gap between our first and second born. “Won’t it be just like having only one child?” people asked, or worse: “Why even bother having another one at all?” 

    But what I (and others in the same situation) have come to learn is that there’s actually a lot to love – and only one thing I loathe – about having a large age gap between children.

    The economic advantage 

    According to the 2013 AMP NATSEM Income and Wealth Report, it was estimated that raising two children will cost approximately $812,000. Therefore it can make great financial sense to spread out the timeframe in which you add to your brood. 

    This certainly rings true with childcare and education, some of the largest strains on a family’s cashflow. With such a sizeable gap between our kids, we can look at putting them through a private high school education, as we’ll only face two years of paying concurrent fees.  Similarly, we’ve saved by never having to shell out for two sets of day-care fees at once.

    Karen, mum to Billy, who is almost 17, and Connor, aged 11, has also successfully avoided the dual fees scenario by having five years and seven months between her boys. 

    “Being on maternity leave when Billy started kindergarten was an enormous saver. Before and after school care is a huge strain on finances, so to have the first 12 months without that expense helped save thousands of dollars,” says Karen. 

    The opportunity to replenish the bank balance is also an attractive bonus to choosing to have a generous gap between babies. Mother of three, Theresa, found having four-and-a-half-years between her six-year-old son Isaiah and 18-month-old twins Luka and Sienna was a blessing for this very reason. 

    “By having the large gap I was able to go back into the work force for a few years to get financially back on track before having more children,” she says. 

    Let’s not forget the economic advantage that comes with only having one child in nappies, or there being no need to buy an extra car seat or cot when baby number two arrives before the first has outgrown theirs. And all that surplus money saved can mean a longer maternity leave the second time around. 

    The built-in babysitter 

    There would hardly be a parent alive who hasn’t reached for a baby wipe, only to suddenly remember the last one was used hours before. “How awesome is it when you can send one of your older kids to get you another one without you having to drag the baby across the room, chancing poo dripping all over the floor!” says Michelle, a mum of three who has four-and-a-half-years between her youngest two children.

    On countless occasions, I too have been relieved to have had my little quasi parent on hand to help out. What’s more, it helped my son thrive in his newly appointed role of “big brother”, and banished any jealousy he may have felt having to suddenly share the spotlight that had been solely his for so long. 

    And the best bit about this large age gap benefit, as Karen has found out? “As Billy became a teenager,” says Karen, “he was old enough to be an actual baby sitter.” 

    Teacher’s aide 

    There is no more willing student than a younger sibling, who either wants to emulate the older child they so adore, or simply act as a sponge, copying their every action. Whether it’s wanting to do the same work, listening as they learn to read, or simply start to string sentences together sooner because of the constant chatter from an older child, there is fertile ground for a fast-tracked education. 

    For Michelle, it was her older sons who diffused the battleground that can be the dining room table.

    “Isobel wants to be like the boys so she has mastered eating with cutlery and all manner of foods much earlier than the other two,” she says. 

    And let’s not forget one of the toughest teaching challenges every parent faces: toilet training.

    In a story my mother often tells, my sister, who was five years older than our little brother, managed to train him easily – and early on – simply because he wanted to copy his beloved bigger sister. Surely many parents would happily accept help from any avenue if it meant being on the rapid road to toilet training success! 

    Quality time 

    All that one-on-one attention I was able to lavish on my first born, and all the special moments I soaked up because he was my sole focus, can be emulated with my second because my son is at school during the week. 

    It’s something Michelle understands well. “Between 9 and 2.30 I am all Isobel’s, which I love,” she says. “I don’t feel guilty spending time on homework or other after-school activities as I know I’ve spent so much time with the little one during the day.”

    And the large gap also means much less chance of sibling rivalry. “Oliver has always seen Isobel as a baby and has never seen her as a threat to his position in the family,” Michelle explains.”The boys dote on their ‘baby’ sister and really look after her, as big brothers should.” 

    Hello square one, we meet again

    Just like Newton’s Third Law of Motion, for every action there has to be an equal and opposite reaction. Meaning, as great as it has been having a large age gap between my children, it can’t all be rainbows – there must also be something to loathe.

    And I’ve realised that having a large age gap is like playing the parenting version of Snakes and Ladders. After steadily climbing upwards towards some semblance of independence, where days are no longer governed by strict routines and we don’t need to be home for nap times, suddenly we slipped back down to square one. We were back to starting from scratch – but with an older sibling who was in a very different stage of childhood. 

    Michelle wholeheartedly identifies with this feeling. “We had to curtail a lot of our fun weekend things as Isobel needs to sleep, or my husband and I have to divide and conquer so the boys don’t feel like they are missing out,” she says. 

    So, yes, it can be tricky to manage, and yes, that tantalising taste of independence becomes but mirage in your mind. But there is no correct answer to the perfect age gap equation – I just know that our gap has helped me be the very best parent I can be, and that’s good enough for me.

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